Blushing as I write a sex scene
I’m re-sharing a popular blog post from 2016 about writing sex scenes in The Shade Ring Trilogy. The Shade Ring, Albedo Effect, and Aerosol Sky are set a hundred years in the future in a time of runaway global warming, when oceans have risen fifteen feet. I made a decision to include sex scenes, although they’re not as explicit as the sex scenes in many romance novels.
To each her own. Some readers like their sex scenes hot and steamy. Others want the details left up to their imagination. I fall into the second category. Although, I admit, I’ve read a few sex scenes that were, well… pretty romantic. I’ve also read sex scenes that were downright awkward – about as sexy as watching Miley Cyrus twerking. I obligated myself to read a romance last year that included some explicit sex scenes, and I have to admit, I skimmed over them to get to the other side because they were so unpleasant, and UNSEXY. I guess I just don’t want an anatomy lesson when I’m reading a novel.
This is an important issue to me right now because I’m smack dab in the middle of writing book 2 of The Shade Ring Trilogy. I’m crafting a love scene that I hope will be on the pleasant side – NOT the awkward side – of sexy.
One thing I know for sure: I could never write erotica. I can just imagine my sons and my grandkids reading it and freaking out that I might know anything about lovemaking. LOL I can also imagine winning “The Bad Sex in Fiction” award. No kidding – that’s an actual award given out for really tacky sex scenes. Definitely not a plaque I want hanging on my wall.
2021 Post script: I backed off the sex scenes in my more recent novels, preferring to let readers use their imaginations.